The Mommy Meltdown
I am truly blessed to be a stay at home mom and watch my children grow, but lets me honest it can be hard! I am a normal human and on occasions have a mommy melt down! You know the ones that are built up over a couple months until you have that one particularly hard, endless day that causes you to question every parenting decision you have ever made. I have about 5 years of stay at home mom experience and even though you would think by now I know what I am doing, half the time I am just winging it and trying to follow my heart. It never fails at some point I will have a minor. . . or major meltdown and everything comes spilling out in a flood of tears. Usually ending with my mom on the phone telling me everything will be ok.
Being a mom for me has been different in some ways considering I had just turned 18 when my boy came into my life. At first I thought I was the only mom who had the occasional melt down, it was hard and I was ashamed of myself. What mom in her right damn mind would cry over a crying baby, sharpie on a wall, the all day mom, mom, mom, mom, mommy, or whatever seemed to just push me off that cliff I was holding onto for dear life. It was something I struggled with by myself for at least three years. Just recently other people in my age group have started to create little monsters of their own and it hit me like a toy flying from the back seat and smacking me in the back of the head,
I am not alone.
I know there are so many new mommies out there struggling the same way I did. Just know you are not alone, whatever you may be experiencing today another mommy has been through. Every child will cut their own hair, write on your wall with a sharpie, cause a everyone in the store to say I’m glad that isn’t my kid, ask you a billion question in a matter of minutes and spread shit all over their crib, walls and themselves. Shake it off mom, you have got this. There is no users manual for the little things crawling up your curtains but I know you are doing the best you can.
My tips to regain your sanity
1. Take some time for you! Having an identity other than just mom is important for you
*Have lunch with a friend
*Go get your hair or nails done
*Get outside and read
*Anything that makes you feel like a human again
2. Get up have a cup of coffee, put some real pants on and a half a face
*It really does make you feel like a woman again
*I’m not talking about an all done up, fancy outfit and heels (unless that what makes you feel good) Just a little something so when you look in the mirror you don’t feel like a zombie
3. Talk to other moms, join a local group or reconnect with a friend that just had a baby
* Other moms can relate to the way you feel
*Having someone to share your tricks to get sharpie off a wall is nice
*You need someone to confide your feeling too – don’t keep it all in girl you will EXPLODE!
4. Stop stressing about your housework
*Dishes will be there tomorrow
*No need in wiping the table after every meal it will just be covered in unwanted food in a couple hours
*Stop running yourself in circles to be the perfect mom
*People who matter will understand you have children
5. LOVE YOU!
*Learn to love yourself
*Work on being the best you possible
*You cannot love and take care of someone else if you don’t love and care for yourself first!
Although I have not mastered the year of no meltdowns I have definitely learned how to prolong the happy, grateful times.
Thanks for taking the time to read and I hope if can help you overcome some of those overwhelming feelings we can get as a mom. If you have your own endless day story to share feel free to leave a comment below. Have a great day.
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